Jun 15, 2020
Remy and Ben talk about Remy's sexuality and how Ben feels about dating someone who is not entirely straight! Woohoo! Then we go back in time to May 2019 in NYC at Charlotte's apartment and Remy has a grand ole' time with comedian couple Cas Humes and Nasser Khan right before their big move to LA and eventual marriage. We discuss not wanting kids, Nasser and Cas tell us about their similarities from being raised in conservative Christian and Muslim households, and Remy reveals how a trip to Ripley's Believe it Or Not may have awoken her sexuality, believe it or not. We also talk humping inanimate objects as kids, Harry Potter erotica fan fiction, and the weird movies we ALL watched.
Note: A few months after this episode Cas Humes cames out with They/Them pronouns. Cumgrats!
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Also, scroll down to the bottom for a list of great BLM and LGBTQ charities to donate to!
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Charities to Donate to for BLM/LGBT:
The Pride Fund to End Gun Violence is a Political Action Committee (PAC) that supports candidates who will act on sensible gun policy reforms while championing LGBTQ safety and equality. Founded in the wake of the Pulse nightclub shooting in Orlando, America’s deadliest mass shooting in modern history, the Pride Fund to End Gun Violence took action to rally the LGBTQ community and allies in a call for common sense gun reforms. On their website, they note that LGBTQ individuals suffer more hate crimes than any other protected group, which makes disarming hate a crucial LGBTQ issue.
The National Center for Transgender Equality is the nation’s leading social justice advocacy organization winning life-saving change for transgender people. They work at the local, state, and federal level to advance transgender equality. Their services also include resources for trans people on navigating legal issues such as changing the name and gender on their identification documents and an About Transgender People resource hub, where family members and other allies can go to find information to learn about and support the transgender people in their lives.
Equality Federation is the movement builder and strategic partner to state-based organizations advocating for LGBTQ people. From Equality Florida to Freedom Oklahoma to Basic Rights Oregon, we amplify the power of the state-based LGBTQ movement. They collaborate on issues such as workplace equality and anti-transgender bathroom bans, in addition to intersectional issues such as reproductive justice and immigration, to ensure that LGBTQ people of all ages and walk of life have fair and equal opportunity to thrive. By training and supporting strong local leadership, they ensure that LGBTQ leaders on the ground in their states can fend off attacks and advance protections for LGBTQ people in their legislatures.
GLSEN (pronounced "glisten") is a the leading national education organization that works to transform K-12 schools into safe and affirming environments and ensure that LGBTQ students are able to learn and grow in a school environment free from bullying and harassment. 8 out of 10 LGBT students are still harassed at school each year because of who they are, but GLSEN is working to change that through researching and developing evidence-based solutions, and providing resources for educators to use in their school communities.
The LGBTQ Victory Fund is the only national organization dedicated to electing openly LGBTQ people to all levels of government. Victory Fund was founded in 1991, when less than 50 openly LGBTQ individuals held elected office at any level across America. Today they provide campaign, fundraising, and communications support to LGBTQ candidates with the goal of increasing representation and passing pro-equality legislation.
NQTTCN is a healing justice organization that works to transform mental health for queer and trans people of color. They provide a community for resource sharing, connection, and learning among queer and trans people of color committed to improving mental health for their communities. The organization also operates a Mental Health Fund for Queer and Trans People of Color, which provides financial assistance in order to increase access to mental health support and address the economic barriers many queer and trans people of color face within the healthcare system.
Transgender Law Center is the largest national trans-led organization advocating self-determination for all people. They are a multi-disciplinary organization that uses litigation, policy advocacy, education, movement building, and direct service to meet the needs of transgender communities. Their programs include the Detention Project, which works to end the abuses transgender people experience in prisons, jails, immigration detention, and at the hands of law enforcement, the Legal Resistance Network, which provide pro bono legal services, the Transgender Immigrant Defense Effort, which provides legal services to transgender immigrants, and more.
The Trevor Project is the leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to LGBTQ young people under 25. The Trevor Project was founded in 1998 by the creators of the Academy Award®-winning short film TREVOR, and since then, hundreds of thousands of young people in crisis have reached out to The Trevor Project’s multiple in-person and online life-saving resources, including 24-hour mental health hotline, webchat, and text message services.
The Gill Foundation is one of the nation’s leading funders of efforts to secure full equality for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people. The foundation offers grant funding to nonprofits that work to advance equality through research, education, policy, and the legal system. Their focus lies in securing change to administrative policies at the state level. Founded in 1994 by philanthropist Tim Gill, the foundation has since invested more than $335 million in programs and nonprofit organizations throughout the country.
The It Gets Better Project is a nonprofit organization dedicated to uplifting, empowering, and connecting LGBTQ youth across the globe. In 2010, Dan Savage and his partner, Terry Miller, started a global movement with these three words. It began as a widespread social media campaign to provide hope, encouragement, and community to LGBTQ youth, and has now evolved into a major platform, reaching millions of young people each year. Their ultimate goal remains the same: showing LGBTQ youth that although growing up isn’t easy, no one has to do it alone.
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